The Antidote for When You’re at Odds 

As we head into a season focused on giving thanks in the midst of an election year, we recognize that alongside the joys of the holidays, there are also challenges. Family gatherings often bring together a mix of personalities, and the passion of differing opinions can sometimes cause friction. This tension can be magnified, as political conversations often seep into gatherings, making common ground feel more elusive. Add the general stress of everyday life, and finding unity can feel like a struggle.

So what’s the antidote? Gratitude. It may seem simple, but practicing gratitude together can be a powerful tool to soften hard feelings and calm heated words. Here’s how you can focus on giving thanks and pursuing peace this season, especially in the face of election year stress:

Count your blessings.

Instead of diving into divisive topics, shift the conversation to stories of joy, kindness, and help you’ve received throughout the year. When we focus on gratitude—whether it’s something as small as a gesture of kindness from a neighbor or as large as overcoming a personal challenge—it can redirect attention away from the topics that divide us. Sharing stories of thankfulness bonds us together, reminding us that while we may have differing views, we all have much to be grateful for.

Get active with your gratitude.

Put your gratitude into action. Consider setting an extra place at your Thanksgiving table for a college student who can’t make it home for the holiday or someone in your community who is lonely. Volunteering at a local nonprofit as a family or serving meals at a shelter shifts our perspective from personal differences to the things that truly matter. Through shared purpose and service, gratitude grows, and connections strengthen.

Think forward.

The holidays are a time to reflect, but they’re also a great opportunity to think forward. Leaving a gift in your will or estate plan to Palmer Home for Children or causes close to your heart is a lasting expression of gratitude. While election year topics may feel pressing, they are temporary. Long-term legacies, rooted in gratitude and care for others, are eternal. Discussing your intentions with loved ones during the holidays allows your family to reflect on the values you all cherish, moving forward with thankfulness and unity.

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Gratitude as the Antidote for Stress

Election years often bring increased stress, anxiety, and division, even among close-knit families. The 24-hour news cycle, political debates, and societal tensions can create a pressure cooker atmosphere at the holiday table. Practicing gratitude together acts as a release valve, helping to ease that stress. By focusing on the good in our lives—family, friends, health, and community—we can find common ground, reduce anxiety, and amplify what’s good and true in our relationships.

As author and teacher Eckhart Tolle wisely said, “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” Practicing gratitude this season is about more than just counting blessings; it’s about building bridges, fostering peace, and finding abundance even when we’re at odds.